hi all. new guy here. i tried finding the imformation i needed by searching through the post but no luck.
just wondering if anyone out there knows if i can keep "posts" on my ol lady since we now have 2 computers connected through a network.
before, we shared the same computer and i had programs on there to see what she was doing while i was gone for weeks at a time. (job) she has had previous conversations with certain people that lead me to believe she was having to much fun while i was away.
i'm not a nosy guy, but when i start to suspect something, i want to know what lies ahead.
we both have access through a cable modem. i'm not a big computer man myself, but i do know how to find and install software to monitor what is going on, but now we have seperate computers, im at a loss.
i would greatly appreciate any help anyone can give me.
thanks.

 

I think the problem you're going to find is that any software or programs you find are going to have to be installed on the remote computer (your wife's) - like the programs you were mentioning. Unless the computer's are setup as a proxy (with your's being the server), her network activity doesn't even go through your computer - it would be routed through the router/hub/switch to the modem.

Tell us a little more about your network and exactly what's running on each computer (OS's) as well as what programs she is using to "communicate" (like AIM, AOL, Yahoo Messenger, NetMeeting, etc.) There may be options for each program out there (as there are plenty of "hacks" out there to take advantage of the weaknesses inherent in these types of programs - you may be able to use one to your advantage.)

You may be better off setting up a spy cam or something to keep an eye on her computer. It may be cheaper and easier to setup. Today's cameras are simply amazing - having very fine resolutions, very small size, and very low prices.

I'm just thinking that if you don't have access to the computer (Administrative access if it's a Win2k or WinXP computer), then you're not going to be able to accomplish what you want to do.

Give us a little more info and we'll see what we can come up with.

Good luck!

 

like i said, not a big pc guy. but i can tell you what i know.
she has the modem and switch connected to her computer. my computer runs thru the switch. she has winxp on her pc and i have win98. she has her pc password protected so that no one can access her pc while shes away. may be too smart for her own good, huh?
she used to use yahoo, aim and msn messenger, but what she is using now, i couldn't tell you.
hope this helps.
randy

 

I would suggest that there is nothing you can do to snoop on her computer without some serious hacking, since you can't even get onto her computer without a password.

I know this is a stretch, but I would recommend talking to your "old-lady" about your trust issues. You guys sound like you really have some stuff to work out. Or, if you can't trust her when your away, maybe you shouldnt go away?

 

If you wan tot know what she is doing while she is on the computer, you should download an application called Remote Administrator.

link:

http://www.famatech.com/default.html

Install it as a system service on both computers. Then start up the service, and from yoru computer, choose "View Only" and type the computer name or ip address and you wil lbe able to monitor her monitor.

I've used this program millions of time. I have wireless in the house and I can control ANY computer in the house from one. It's great. But I never used it to spy

 

Thanks for the help all! I'll try that out quantex.
randy

 

First of all; The disclaimers;

I do not advocate spying under any circumstances and I wholeheartedly agree with kuhurdler; Plus, it does have to be pointed-out that a hot and heavy chat may be just that, a chat and it would be up to you, how that would apply within the confines of your own morality; And, one should also be aware that the federal wiretapping laws do apply within a marriage, so most of what one may find may not be admissible and not only would extraordinary efforts be a violation of the law, but also a violation of your spouse's civil rights...

But with that said; I did just read a wire service story yesterday about the proliferation of spouse-spying and it mentioned two websites that apparently offer products and most likely, some topic-specific advice; I have not visited either site (beyond a cursory glance looking for porn) and have no information beyond that which appeared on the AP wire, but perhaps you can find some additional info by visiting chatcheaters.com or infidelitycheck.org

Good Luck;
R

 

There's one minor flaw in this solution (from the Radmin site):
So you'll have to have Admin privileges on the remote computer to control or view it.

BTW, Win2k/XP has Remote Desktop - basically the same thing (supposedly not as fast.) That being said, I plan to install Radmin just for a comparison. I use Rem Desk frequently on my network and if I can find something that's faster or better in anyway, I'll try it. However, it will have to be a vast improvement over Rem Desk for me to dish out $35 for it.

BTW, morality issues aside - there are some serious legal issues at work here. Just be careful.

 

kuhurdler and magister

maybe i didn't explain my situation too well, whatever the case, i understand where you two are coming from, but the ol lady is the type that she believes everything everyone says online and doesn't think anyone would ever harm her. like i said, i am gone for weeks on the road, if she decided to meet up with one of her chat friends and they turn out to be a crazy, she will be in trouble and i'll be on the road. i really don't want to come home and find her lying on the ground dead because i didnt care. i try to make sure i call her every night to make sure she is okay. i don't want to "spy" to throw it in her face later. i want to make sure that she doesn't meet up with these people and if she did, i want to have proof who she did meet up with incase something bad did happen. i have told her all the time that the person/people she talks to just might not be the person they claim to be. she thinks i'm just being "silly" well thanks again for the help all.
randy

 

In that case, your best tool may be some research. Do some searches on Google for some articles about meeting people online and the consequences of such actions. To be honest, I don't really know where you would go for such information. But, I think educating her to the dangers of the internet may be a better approach than "watching her every move" so to speak.

Just a thought.

Good luck!`